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Letters 09-07-2015

DEJA VUE Traverse City faces the same question as faced by Ann Arbor Township several years ago. A builder wanted to construct a 250-student Montessori school on 7.78 acres. The land was zoned for suburban residential use. The proposed school building was permissible as a “conditional use.”

The Court Overreached Believe it or not, everyone who disagrees with the court’s ruling on gay marriage isn’t a hateful bigot. Some of us believe the Supreme Court simply usurped the rule of law by legislating from the bench...

Some Diversity, Huh? Either I’ve been misled or misinformed about the greater Traverse City area. I thought that everyone there was so ‘all inclusive’ and open to other peoples’ opinions and, though one may disagree with said person, that person was entitled to their opinion(s)...

Defending Good People I was deeply saddened to read Colleen Smith’s letter [in Aug. 24 issue] regarding her boycott of the State Theater. I know both Derek and Brandon personally and cannot begin to understand how someone could express such contempt for them...

Not Fascinating I really don’t understand how you can name Jada Johnson a fascinating person by being a hunter. There are thousands of hunters all over the world, shooting by gun and also by arrow; why is she so special? All the other people listed were amazing...

Back to Mayberry A phrase that is often used to describe the amiable qualities that make Traverse City a great place to live is “small-town charm,” conjuring images of life in 1940s small-town America. Where everyone in Mayberry greets each other by name, job descriptions are simple enough for Sarah Palin to understand, and milk is delivered to your door...

Don’t Be Threatened The August 31 issue had 10 letters(!) blasting a recent writer for her stance on gay marriage and the State Theatre. That is overkill. Ms. Smith has a right to her opinion, a right to comment in an open forum such as Northern Express...

Treat The Sickness Thank you to Grant Parsons for the editorial exposing the uglier residual of the criminalizing of drug use. Clean now, I struggled with addiction for a good portion of my adult life. I’ve never sold drugs or committed a violent crime, but I’ve been arrested, jailed, and eventually imprisoned. This did nothing but perpetuate shame, alienation, loss and continued use...

About A Girl -- Not Consider your audience, Thomas Kachadurian (“About A Girl” column). Preachy opinion pieces don’t change people’s minds. Example: “My view on abortion changed…It might be time for the rest of the country to catch up.” Opinion pieces work best when engaging the reader, not directing the reader...

Disappointed I am disappointed with the tone of many of the August 31 responses to Colleen Smith’s Letter to the Editor from the previous week. I do not hold Ms. Smith’s opinion; however, if we live in a diverse community, by definition, people will hold different views, value different things, look and act different from one another...

Free Will To Love I want to start off by saying I love Northern Express. It is well written, unbiased and always a pleasure to read. I am sorry I missed last month’s article referred to in the Aug. 24 letter titled, “No More State Theater.”

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Then Changes

Robert Downes - May 10th, 2007
Heard that a couple of teens got kicked out of a local high school the other day for getting caught with alcohol. Hope they pull through... And did you hear about the first-grader who was kicked out of school for pointing his finger at some kids and yelling “bang“?
It made me think that we sure judge kids by a harsher standard today than when I was a carefree young terrorist.
Times sure have changed, by cracky. Back when teenagers ruled the world in the late 60s, the administrators at my high school were busy creating an experimental smoking lounge for students so we wouldn’t have to go outside to smoke. The experiment lasted less than a year, but still, in that social climate I can’t imagine any of our principals would have expelled a student for getting caught with a beer.
Looking in the rearview mirror from the age of Klebold and Harris, I shiver to think of how we parents would have been judged if today’s standards of zero tolerance were shipped to the days of our youth in the Wayback Machine.
In the 6th grade, for instance, no one thought it was odd to bring a jack knife to my elementary school in rural Grand Rapids. How else would you play mumbly-peg at recess?
A shotgun and bow and arrows were part of my arsenal as a 12-year-old, with most of my pals owning some sort of rifle or .20 gauge. Mad magazine was considered far more dangerous by my teachers, and sure bait for confiscation.
On the other hand, it never crossed anyone’s mind to bring their .22 to school and blow away their classmates. Problems with bullies were solved by shoving matches or avoidance.
As 15-year-olds, my friends and I enjoyed making homemade gunpowder by the pound and blowing up cans of the stuff out in the driveway in suburban Royal Oak. Our stuff was too primitive to get to the level of any IED-style explosions, but we got some spectacular flares and lift-offs. No one saw fit to call the cops — it was just another group of kids blowing stuff up.
Today, we‘d be doing hard time in prison, with the news in all the papers.
And back then, the corner store was happy to sell us bottles of Boone’s Farm apple wine at the age of 16, no questions asked.
Was it too much apple wine in our teen years that prompted my befuddled generation to elect the likes of George W. Bush? Interesting theory...
Today, when kids are expelled from school for packing nail files, it’s because we live in the shadow of Cho Seung-Hui, much the same way the hippies got dipped in blood by Charles Manson.
But it does seem strange.
What caused the shift from a freer society to one where zero tolerance has become a necessity?
You can truck out the usual suspects: Today, one half of all first weddings end in divorce, often with children in tow (that’s up from about 29% of marriages in 1970). And one million children are born out-of-wedlock into fatherless families each year. Violent video games and films desensitize kids while encouraging distant responses, such as shootings. And, according to the Christian Science Monitor, nearly one-third of American high school students drop out, with that level rising to almost half of all minority students. Also, perhaps kids are crazed on junk food, preservatives, sugar and the sedentary lifestyle.
Check all of the above for why kids are kept on a short leash these days.
Add to that my own humble theory. Over the past 100 years, the status of children has diminished in America from useful members of the family to little more than pets. Who wouldn’t feel a sense of uselessness, despair and alienation?
My father and mother were required to work as farm hands in their youth, supporting their families as had been the case for hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution. They were vital contributors to the family’s survival, and there was a sense of self-esteem in that knowledge, which is missing today.
Today, contributing to a family’s success is rarely the case for children, who are parked in front of the TV set and left to their imaginations.
Sigmund Freud said that work and love are the prerequisites for sanity. Work & Love... that’s what you need to keep from going insane. Yet our affluent society has drifted far from the need for children to work for their family’s success.
A teacher recently wrote that many students in her class have feelings of depression and despair, and some have even attempted suicide. Isn’t that a logical consequence of feeling useless and unneeded, with no responsibilities to be proud of?
If you don’t keep a pet well-exercised, it can over-eat, get spoiled, demand attention, act up and make a mess. Is tightening the leash the best alternative?
Obviously, we can’t go back to kids doing farm chores or collecting firewood and berries to support the tribe. The “work” we set for children is doing well in school. The trick for parents is to convince their kids that their success in school isn’t just for their own good — it’s vital for the whole family’s success.


 
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