Letters 11-23-2015

Cheering From Petoskey While red-eyed rats boil fanatically up from the ancient sewers of Paris to feast on pools of French blood, at the G20 meeting the farcical pied piper of 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue thrusts a bony finger at the president of the Russian Federation and yells: “liberté, égalité, fraternité, Clinton, Kerry--Obamaism!”

The Other Mothers And Fathers Regarding the very nice recent article on “The First Lady of Yoga,” I have taken many classes with Sandy Carden, and I consider her to be a great teacher. However, I feel the article is remiss to not even give acknowledgement to other very important yoga influences in northern Michigan...

Drop The Blue Angels The last time I went to the National Cherry Festival, I picked the wrong day. The Blue Angels were forcing everyone to duck and cover from the earsplitting cacophony overhead...

Real Advice For The Sick In the Nov. 16 article “Flu Fighters,” author Kristi Kates fails to mention the most basic tool in our arsenal during Influenza season... the flu vaccine! I understand you might be afraid of being the victim of Jenny McCarthyism, but the science is there...

Keeping Traverse City in the Dark Our environment is our greatest asset. It sustains our lives; it drives our economy. We ignore it at our peril. Northern Michigan Environmental Action Council (NMEAC) has submitted letters of concern to both the city commission and planning commission regarding the proposed 9-story buildings on Pine Street. We have requested an independent environmental assessment with clear answers before a land use permit is granted...

All About Them Another cartoon by Jen Sorensen that brings out the truth! Most of her cartoons are too slanted in a Socialist manner, but when she gets it correct, she hits the nail on the target! “Arizona is the first state to put a 12-month lifetime limit on welfare benefits.” That quote is in the opening panel... 

Unfair To County Employees It appears that the commissioners of Grand Traverse County will seek to remedy a shortfall in the 2016 budget by instituting cuts in expenditures, the most notable the reduction of contributions to various insurance benefits in place for county employees. As one example, the county’s contributions to health insurance premiums will decrease from ten to six percent in 2016. What this means, of course, is that if a county employee wishes to maintain coverage at the current level next year, the employee will have to come up with the difference...

Up, Not Out I would like to congratulate the Traverse City Planning Commission on their decision to approve the River West development. Traverse City will either grow up or grow out. For countless reasons, up is better than out. Or do we enjoy such things as traffic congestion and replacing wooded hillsides with hideous spectacles like the one behind Tom’s West Bay. At least that one is on the edge of town as opposed to in the formerly beautiful rolling meadows of Acme Township...

Lessons In Winning War I am saddened to hear the response of so many of legislators tasked with keeping our country safe. I listen and wonder if they know what “winning” this kind of conflict requires or even means? Did we win in Korea? Did we win in Vietnam? Are we winning in Afghanistan? How is Israel winning against the Palestinians? Will they “take out” Hezbollah...

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Fighting for your life

Anne Stanton - November 2nd, 2009
Fighting for Your Life
One alternative to drug rehab: boxing

By Anne Stanton 11/2/09

Why would you teach a kid who gets in fights at school how to fight even better?

To Dakotah Tarrant, a freshman at Traverse City Central Senior High, it makes all the sense in the world.

“Before I was boxing, some kid would be calling me names, saying I was a sissy. Now I’d laugh at him. I know I could drop that kid in the ring, but I don’t have to. When I can spar every other day, basically I can do it and not get in trouble. Unless I’m backed in the corner, I ain’t got no need to fight in school.”

Trigger Boxing in Traverse City is a second home to at-risk kids, as well as youth and adults who are in no trouble at all. Probation officers working for Judge David Stowe have sent boys and even a girl, who are enrolled in the 13th Circuit Family Division court, to learn how to box. They all learn how to workout, but not all of them have stuck with it. The results are so impressive that he plans to double the number.

Tarrant is neither on probation nor in trouble with the law, but he was headed that way. He argued with his quick-tempered dad and fought kids at school. He was smoking pot every day and flunking out of school. He and his father came to blows, just about the time his mother finished a year of rehab and moved north to Traverse City from Muskegon. He moved north from Clio and joined her last spring—a month before school ended.

“I would come home, so scared of my dad. Living with my mom has changed my life. I’m not going to sit here and say it’s all my dad’s fault. It was my fault too.”

Shortly after moving here, an East Junior High counselor pulled him into her office and asked him if he liked to fight. “I love to fight,” he told her. She suggested he start boxing at Trigger Boxing and soon afterward found a grant to pay his gym fee of $75 a month. Now Tarrant works at Concrete Design and pays for it himself. His life has completely turned around, he said.

There’s no magic. As they spar or get ready to spar, Bill Bustance, who founded the gym with his wife Robbin, just talks to the kids straight.

“Bill will help me with a lot of different situations, like when I get mad at something I shouldn’t be getting mad about. ‘Me and mom got in an argument.’ ‘What happened?’ He’ll tell me what I should have done. It really makes sense. He’s a really smart guy.”

Katrina May, Tarrant’s mom, can’t say enough about Bustance. “He’s been a blessing to this family,” she said.

May said she found her own way at a Bible boot camp, called Teen Challenge (a rehab camp in Muskegon for people of all ages). “It saved my life. Whether you believe in God or not, the people there believe in you. It’s very spiritual, very real.”

Bustance said recovery from substance abuse starts with the understanding of “we.”

“People who are addicts are self-centered individuals who are lost. The only way they recover is to realize they are part of something. Establish a herd instinct. Here, we have a pack mentality. They relate with a herd as soon as they come in.

“‘Define yourself or other people will tell you who you are.’ That’s not my quote but psychiatrist Thomas Szasz. Do you want a probation officer telling you who you are or do you want a free life?”

Bustance is known for speaking bluntly. In fact, members sign a release form which according to him means “I can kill you and you can’t sue me.” He says sometimes he needs to use hard language or even a smack on the head in the ring to reinforce the message. “Being a boxing instructor I have more latitude than teachers in the public school system.”

The court referrals are his toughest challenge because they often blow off their scheduled times (a lot of members don’t fight, but work out in the gym). “The best boxers are the ones who have the gumption to walk in themselves. Sometimes when these kids hit, you never know who’s going to be good or even great.”

Tarrant, at 135 pounds, shows real promise. He’s a swift hitter and eager. There have been many like him who’ve seen real success in the ring, and then go on with the rest of their lives.

“They go in and have the fights, realize they can achieve something, realize it’s so hard and provable, and they don’t want to do it anymore. They conquered something, they did it.”

And Bustance leaves this parting advice (and he’s full of advice): If you don’t want to see your kid get in trouble as a teen, you need to be consistent with them when they’re young.

“You can’t lie about some shit and then tell the truth. You have to establish consistent reinforcement. When your kid goes into a candy store, and you say, you’re not getting anything, and they grab the candy bar, are you going to stand your ground and let the kid scream and cry, or are you going to give into the kid? If you give into the kid, he’s going to be a jerk the next eight to 10 times. It’s that simple.”

To help support the Traverse City At Risk Boxing program, call 933-7050.

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