Letters 10-24-2016

It’s Obama’s 1984 Several editions ago I concluded a short letter to the editor with an ominous rhetorical flourish: “Welcome to George Orwell’s 1984 and the grand opening of the Federal Department of Truth!” At the time I am sure most of the readers laughed off my comments as right-wing hyperbole. Shame on you for doubting me...

Gun Bans Don’t Work It is said that mass violence only happens in the USA. A lone gunman in a rubber boat, drifted ashore at a popular resort in Tunisia and randomly shot and killed 38 mostly British and Irish tourists. Tunisian gun laws, which are among the most restrictive in the world, didn’t stop this mass slaughter. And in January 2015, two armed men killed 11 and wounded 11 others in an attack on the French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo. French gun laws didn’t stop these assassins...

Scripps’ Good Deed No good deed shall go unpunished! When Dan Scripps was the 101st District State Representative, he introduced legislation to prevent corporations from contaminating (e.g. fracking) or depleting (e.g. Nestle) Michigan’s water table for corporate profit. There are no property lines in the water table, and many of us depend on private wells for abundant, safe, clean water. In the subsequent election, Dan’s opponents ran a negative campaign almost solely on the misrepresentation that Dan’s good deed was a government takeover of your private water well...

Political Definitions As the time to vote draws near it’s a good time to check into what you stand for. According to Dictionary.com the meanings for liberal and conservative are as follows:

Liberal: Favorable to progress or reform as in political or religious affairs.

Conservative: Disposed to preserve existing conditions, institutions, etc., or to restore traditions and limit change...

Voting Takes A Month? Hurricane Matthew hit the Florida coast Oct. 6, over three weeks before Election Day. Bob Ross (Oct. 17th issue) posits that perhaps evacuation orders from Governor Scott may have had political motivations to diminish turnout and seems to praise Hillary Clinton’s call for Gov. Scott to extend Florida’s voter registration deadline due to evacuations...

Clinton Foundation Facts Does the Clinton Foundation really spend a mere 10 percent (per Mike Pence) or 20 percent (per Reince Priebus) of its money on charity? Not true. Charity Watch gives it an A rating (the same as it gives the NRA Foundation) and says it spends 88 percent on charitable causes, and 12 percent on overhead. Here is the source of the misunderstanding: The Foundation does give only a small percentage of its money to charitable organizations, but it spends far more money directly running a number of programs...

America Needs Change Trump supports our constitution, will appoint judges that will keep our freedoms safe. He supports the partial-birth ban; Hillary voted against it. Regardless of how you feel about Trump, critical issues are at stake. Trump will increase national security, monitor refugee admissions, endorse our vital military forces while fighting ISIS. Vice-presidential candidate Mike Pence will be an intelligent asset for the country. Hillary wants open borders, increased government regulation, and more demilitarization at a time when we need strong military defenses...

My Process For No I will be voting “no” on Prop 3 because I am supportive of the process that is in place to review and approve developments. I was on the Traverse City Planning Commission in the 1990s and gained an appreciation for all of the work that goes into a review. The staff reviews the project and makes a recommendation. The developer then makes a presentation, and fellow commissioners and the public can ask questions and make comments. By the end of the process, I knew how to vote for a project, up or down. This process then repeats itself at the City Commission...

Regarding Your Postcard If you received a “Vote No” postcard from StandUp TC, don’t believe their lies. Prop 3 is not illegal. It won’t cost city taxpayers thousands of dollars in legal bills or special elections. Prop 3 is about protecting our downtown -- not Munson, NMC or the Commons -- from a future of ugly skyscrapers that will diminish the very character of our downtown...

Vote Yes It has been suggested that a recall or re-election of current city staff and Traverse City Commission would work better than Prop 3. I disagree. A recall campaign is the most divisive, costly type of election possible. Prop 3, when passed, will allow all city residents an opportunity to vote on any proposed development over 60 feet tall at no cost to the taxpayer...

Yes Vote Explained A “yes” vote on Prop 3 will give Traverse City the right to vote on developments over 60 feet high. It doesn’t require votes on every future building, as incorrectly stated by a previous letter writer. If referendums are held during general elections, taxpayers pay nothing...

Beware Trump When the country you love have have served for 33 years is threatened, you have an obligation and a duty to speak out. Now is the time for all Americans to speak out against a possible Donald Trump presidency. During the past year Trump has been exposed as a pathological liar, a demagogue and a person who is totally unfit to assume the presidency of our already great country...

Picture Worth 1,000 Words Nobody disagrees with the need for affordable housing or that a certain level of density is dollar smart for TC. The issue is the proposed solution. If you haven’t already seen the architect’s rendition for the site, please Google “Pine Street Development Traverse City”...

Living Wage, Not Tall Buildings Our community deserves better than the StandUp TC “vote no” arguments. They are not truthful. Their yard signs say: “More Housing. Less Red Tape. Vote like you want your kids to live here.” The truth: More housing, but for whom? At what price..

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The art of motherhood:Jaimie Kramer

Erin Crowell - May 2nd, 2011
The ART of Motherhood: Egg donor Jamie Kramer celebrates a global Mother’s Day
By Erin Crowell
Jamie Kramer sits at her computer, scrolling through the columns of photos
before her. She rolls the mouse over several images—a little girl smiling,
standing knee deep in the ocean, another dressed in princess garb, a
little boy in a pile of toys—until she finally settles on one.
She clicks the mouse and opens a photo of two sisters in a phone booth –
one, with soft hair and blue eyes, sitting quietly holding the phone; the
other, a mess of curls with eyes pinched shut in a fit of laughter.
“That’s totally a Jamie face,” Kramer smiles.
It’s a smile any mother would have when talking about her children, only
these children are not hers.
Well… technically.

Six years ago, Kramer (now 29) enrolled herself in Growing Generations, a
Los Angeles-based surrogacy and egg and sperm donation agency, one of
several hundred fertility treatment facilities in the United States.
Kramer donated ova (eggs) to two couples – two gay men in Australia and
two gay men from Italy. Combined with the sperm of each partner (“eggs can
be separated into two groups and some fertilized with each partner’s
sperm,” says Dr. Guy Ringler, a board certified physician in gynecology
and reproductive endocrinology), the eggs were fertilized and inseminated
into a surrogate.
Brett and Doug, the couple from Australia, were the first to receive
Jamie’s donated eggs, and are now the parents of twins – Leah and Daniel.
A few years later, Claudio and Manlio, the couple from Italy, received
Jamie’s second donation and are now parents to twin girls Maddalena and
“There are a lot of similarities between the four of them. They still look
different, but some features carry over,” says Kramer, a petite,
hazel-eyed brunette with a sharp wit and ever present smile. It’s a
personality that lends to her current role as the ABC TV 29&8 ambassador.

When Kramer first heard about the concept of egg donation, she was skeptical.
“I was almost completely against it. It took years for me to wrap my head
around the concept.”
Kramer attributes her change of mind when a relative suffered a fallopian
tube pregnancy and was unable to bear children afterward. The inner
dialogue eventually evolved from what are the options a woman has to
create a family to what dictates a family?
These questions were compounded by the recent spike in agencies seeking
egg donations throughout the country. Jim Hopkins wrote in a USA Today
article published March 2006: “Classified-ad website Craigslist publishes
150 ads on a typical day. A Web search for ‘egg donor’ at Google produces
dozens of links to advertisers…’Egg Donors Needed. $10,000,’ says one in
The Daily Californian, the student newspaper at the University of
California, Berkeley. The ad, from a San Diego broker called A Perfect
Match, seeks women who are ‘attractive, under the age of 29’ and have SAT
scores above 1,300.”
Kramer had seen such ads while studying theatre and film at the American
Musical and Dramatic Academy in New York City.
“They were all over the actor’s newspapers backstage. ‘Become an egg
donor,’” Kramer recalls.
While she worked several low-paying and volunteer-based acting
jobs—commercial ads for Colgate and Palmolive; and as an extra on films
such as ‘Elf’ and ‘Mona Lisa Smile’—Kramer said she was scraping by with
what little money she made as a restaurant hostess. A large paycheck at
$10,000 per donation sounded tempting.
“That’s initially why I looked into it,” she admits. “My roommate did it
and it sounded pretty simple.”

Kramer began the year-long process that started with registration followed
by multiple genetic, health, IQ and psychological testing. After a month
of twice-a-day self-injected hormone therapy, Kramer flew out to LA where
her eggs were then surgically removed.
Kramer’s profile was launched on the Growing Generations website, complete
with video interview for prospective parents seeking the ideal child, who
can pay upwards of $150,000.
“They ask you questions like ‘what are your hopes and dreams?’ It kind of
makes you feel like Miss America,” she laughs about the interview. “At one
point you feel like you need to say, ‘One day, I hope there to be world
Just as her perception of donating changed, so did Kramer’s motive.
“When I found out (Brett and Doug) were interested in meeting me, it was
different. It sounds silly, but I became more confident when I found out
they were a gay couple. Not only that, but the circumstances revolving
around why they chose to do it. This was their only alternative.”
Same sex couples may not marry and currently there is no provision for
joint adoption applications from same sex couples, according to the
Parliamentary Library of Australia.
The three met at a brunch spot in New York.
“After that, it was completely cemented,” she says.

Assisted reproductive technology (ART) has been used in the United States
since 1981, most commonly through the transfer of fertilized human eggs
into a woman’s uterus (in vitro fertilization).
According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2008 ART
Success Rates Report, 148,055 ART cycles were performed at 436 clinics in
the United States during that year, resulting in 26,326 live births (which
can include multiple infants) and ultimately 61,426 infants.
Today, assistive reproduction births make up for over 1 percent of the
U.S. population .
ART increases the likelihood of pre-term delivery and low birth weight,
largely based on the elevated risk of multiple pregnancies (more than one
fertilized egg).
Kramer said she was well aware of the risks associated with her decision.
Those individual risks range from hot flashes, sleep problems, breast
tenderness and bruising to ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS).
According to the New York State Department of Health, this can cause fluid
retention and swelling of the ovaries.
Kramer experienced a moderate level of OHSS and was bed ridden for two
days. Severe OHSS can be life threatening. Because of her familiarity with
the risks, Kramer was hesitant about donating her eggs again.
“It took me a couple months before I finally decided,” she says about
donating a second time, in this case to Claudio and Manlio.

While egg and sperm donation is not considered illegal in the U.S., the
2002 Uniform Parentage Act offers a model for states to adopt, addressing
all forms of assisted reproduction. Certain states have addressed various
issues concerning the practice while others do not entirely (which
includes Michigan).
States such as Texas require health insurance coverage on certain in vitro
fertilization procedures; while other states address sperm donation
specifically, but not egg donation (and vice versa).
Some states also address who the legal parent is upon a couple’s
separation. This depends on the state. The Supreme Court in Tennessee
heard a petition from a woman to have herself declared the legal mother of
three children. During the course of their relationship, the unmarried
heterosexual couple agreed to have children from eggs donated by other
women. The father argued that because there was no genetic relationship to
the woman, she (the surrogate mother) was not their legal mother. The
court disagreed, saying the couple intended to act as the parents and the
woman gave birth to the children. She was awarded custody and support.
It’s an issue that further illustrates society’s ever-evolving definition
of parent.
Section 702 of the Parentage Act states the egg donor is not the parent,
while Section 703 acknowledges that “a man who has provided sperm to, or
consents to, the assisted reproduction of a woman with the intent to be
the father is the father.”

Kramer says she understood her role from the beginning, firmly saying,
“under no circumstance is that egg mine,” a break from her joking self.
“As soon as I donated, it was no longer mine. You have to be willing to
give up complete ownership and expectation. That’s why I crossed off every
Kramer refers to the endless list of options when it comes to deciding the
use of a donor’s eggs – which includes access by same sex couples and
donating the unused eggs to stem cell research.
It’s for these reasons the practice has become so controversial. Kramer
told very few people, getting mixed reactions from those she did share
“My parents’ initial reactions were bad. They didn’t want me to do it. The
idea scared them.”
Kramer attributes the gay couples’ lifestyles as an additional taboo.
“It’s kind of a double whammy. People don’t know how to feel about it,”
she says.
“For me, I think it’s beautiful that these parents are putting in all this
effort, money and time to have these children and raise them. I think we,
as a society, tend to take it for granted. What we consider a nuclear
family can no longer really be defined by genetics. It’s about love and
“Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, but I think before we can pass
judgment on what makes a family, we have to ask ourselves ‘what is love?’”

Kramer says her parents eventually warmed after photos of the children
began to arrive, saying it turned from an unknown procedure into there’s a
family where there wasn’t a family before.
“My mom loves looking at the photos and reading the updates… almost a
crazy sense of grandma pride,” she adds, laughing.
For Kramer, receiving the first photo was actually the most nerve-wracking.
“I was thinking, ‘what is it going to be like to see these babies? Am I
going to develop this attachment?’
“It sounds silly, but the first time I saw them I was like, ‘Wow. Look
what I helped create.’ It’s like, ‘Yay! I helped!’” she laughs, clapping,
summing up her role that is as much accurate as it is lightheartedness.
And while she has no legal obligation to her offspring, Kramer still stays
in touch with both couples.
“I introduced them both,” she says about her Australian and Italian
‘families.’ “We’re always exchanging photos and updates. It’s cool because
in some photos, (both couples) will have the double stroller at
right-to-marry marches. The kids have my picture on the mantel and they
get to watch clips of me (from her job) on the internet.”
In a most recent update, Claudio and Manlio announce the family is still

Dear Jamie, Brett and Doug,
Dear extended family from all over the world, we are so happy to announce
that we’ll be having a baby next August! Yes, it is one baby, strong
heartbeat, and growing wonderfully. The pregnancy is now three months.
Jamie, you being the donor again makes such a huge difference, I promise
this will be the year in which we’ll finally meet in person…and Brett &
Doug, I’m sure you’ll be very happy too, our big bunch just keeps getting
bigger and bigger.

Kramer donated her eggs for a third and final time this past summer,
taking months to make yet another difficult decision. But as before, it
came down to providing something that couldn’t be provided before.
“It took me awhile to make the decision, but I realized I was the only
person in the world who could give them a genetically matched sibling.”
When it comes to her own children, Kramer says she is looking at the
possibility of adopting one day.
“I figure there are many children out there who are in need of a good
home. I want to (adopt) for the simple act of providing for another
person, not for the gratitude of replicating myself,” adding a dash of
humor in typical Jamie Kramer-style, “I’ve done that enough.”

For more information on egg donation and fertility services, visit
www.fertilitynetwork.com/state/michigan. Look for an upcoming feature on
assistive reproduction where the author will interview a surrogate mother.

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